Hi

I just started Naughty step with my 3 & half year old. First time he was put on the step for 450times! Second day more than 100 and the 3rd time it was for 20 times. He is givven Naughty step for hitting. And now he's saying after he's done with naughty step he's going to hit her again! And he refuses to go to naughty step everytime, yet he doesnt halt himself from hitting even if he's reminded before he hits her!

I would like to note one thing about my son, he just underwent a trauma one year ago. so he's still in post-traumatic state. And lately he's become very naughty, he wasnt a naughty son before, he was a very obedient son I will say... and the trauma has affected both so I myself am in the post-traumatic state...

But his naughty behaviour is adding to my worries...

Hi Kyle's Mom,

I'm not sure what the trauma was but have you sought professional help? Most often we just keep encouraging the mom to keep at the steps even when the child is resisting. But because I am not a counselor I wouldn't want to be misleading in my knowledge...I would only encourage you to make sure the behavior isn't link to the trauma (and that could really only come from a professional). Either way...no matter what I think boundaries still have to be established...so you're on the right track.

Also make sure you are following Jo's techniques as much as possible. Sometimes leaving out steps or deviating from them can make matters worse and leaving you without the results you desire.

Maybe create a cute rewards chart and focus on rewarding the good behavior - which may make him not want to do the negative stuff...or do it less often anyways.

I hope you're able to get some support for yourself too. You deserve it. Hopefully things will begin to turn around for you soon. Hang in there...